This weekend I was discussing with my co-worker how women (including myself) always seem to put the cart before the horse whenever we first meet a guy we really like. This includes such behaviors as assuming that they have certain desirable qualities (that they may or may not have), imagining the two of you becoming a couple, wondering what your life would be like if you married them, what your firstborn would look like, etc. This is just something I think most women tend to do, as much as we try not to. We just love ROMANCE and can’t resist playing out movie-worthy scenes or happily ever after scenarios after we first think to ourselves “Maybe this really could be something.”
Immediately after having this conversation I began to wonder if guys ever did the same, being the apathetic curse words that movies, television and our own experiences often make them out to be. I started thinking of my guy friends and wondering which ones might actually be prone to daydreaming. I immediately went to one that I would describe as a hopeless romantic (but he’s not really hopeless). Not a shocker to me, he does daydream about being in relationships so I asked him to describe to me what he imagines happening in the daydream. He listed three difference scenarios 1) him and the girl watching the stars (tehehe) (2) him comforting a girl while she cries (3) him and the girl having serious talks and getting “emotional together” (this guy has got to have the bluest personality according to the personality color wheel that I have ever seen).
I continued to ask several of my other guy friends the same question thinking that this query would prove to be a great way to find out about a person’s personality and what they look for in a relationship, but my prediction was proven wrong for the most part. Although HR’s, (Hopeless Romantic) description fit him to a tee! I continued to ask several of my other guy friends the same question and to my dismay most of their answers were very brief and unimaginative, with the exception of one friend who misunderstood the question to mean daydreaming in general and replied “skateboarding on everything and hanging with rappers/actresses.” Ha ha! Doesn’t that make you imagine Bart Simpson skateboarding through Springfield in the beginning credits of The Simpsons?
Anyway, most of their answers went something like this. “I just imagine me doing the same things I normally do but with that person there.” LAME! Why are men so unromantic?!! It would be appear that they just want us to act as their faithful hound accompanying them on rides to the grocery store and leading them on walks to the park. OK, maybe that’s a little crazy, but seriously, why so mundane in your fantasies? However, as simple as their answers were, it does show that they do dream about good old, simple companionship, which in and of itself is sweet. Let’s hear it for the boys, (especially Star Watcher)!
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"Why so mundane in your fantasies?" I have to admit, that most likely, most of the fantasies us guys enjoy are probably not made for ears as innocent are yours no doubt are. As far as mine go, I did envision myself marrying a girl once, early on in the relationship. That girl was Amber. We both know how that went. So as far as my personal experience with this goes, I'm batting .1000!
In my question I told guys to not mention the sexual stuff. Ha ha! But I'm sure if they did it would be much more creative.
Star Gazer sounds like a tool. You should make friends with real men.
Yeah I misunderstood because your text message was too long and it ended with just daydreaming.
I can't believe I told you my daydreams. I feel naked.
Wow Jackie. No man is going to tell you what he's really daydreaming about...at least not any gentlemen. I would like to know what these boys would have said had another guy asked them this question rather than some pretty young blonde girl. But an interesting post none the less. I think Jonny P is telling the truth. They probably heard the question then thought, Oh wait I can't say what I really think about...quick make something up! Um...star gazing, yeah that's it, star gazing.
Jackie! What a funny blog. I am so glad I found this, because I think you are hilarious and you are too far away too laugh with in person. And I totally concur that when men think about women we are usually scantilly clad, and they wouldn't admit that to you.
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"In my question I told guys to not mention the sexual stuff. Ha ha! But I'm sure if they did it would be much more creative."
If by "creative" you mean "disgusting", "disturbing", or "negatively life-altering", than I totally agree.
My fantasies include my wife cooking for me.
John (B), I just remembered you once told me that your fantasies also include your wife spending lots of money on clothes and then you getting angry and then her getting upset and then you apologizing. "Wow, kid, that's some imagination you got." (in Will Arnett's voice)
Jon (P), why so "disturbing?!"
I have to admit I didn't give you enough of what I really fantasized about. I imagined myself dancing and exploring places and ideas and emotions and thats what love is like.
I should've been more articulate. Deep down every guy wants the same as girls with their fantasies except a lot more like boobs are in the MANtasies.
She just liked my face. I'm not kidding.
Do you know how dang romantic of a date Miguel and I had? We did go star gazing on a mountain! We've walked on the beach day and night and made out! We've done so many romantic things because I the man in this situation wanted to and she did too. It wasn't like "hey watch me check my email" and "hey watch me watch TV" like you thought I meant. How rude!
Also, do you just imagine yourself sitting there while your husband entertains and takes you around town like Paris with her chiuaua?
Great blog entry! You should keep posting things like this, you are a great writer and very funny. I will be a regular on you blog!
I will have to ask my husband this question about what he used to dream about when we were dating. I wonder what he would say? He certainly doesn't daydream anymore! Not that he is un-romantic, because he is. He is very thoughtful and always surprises me. But as for the mushy stuff.... I don't know how much he thought about gazing at stars together! Who is this guy? LOL
As for me, I am like the rest of the girls. Definitely a hopeless romantic.
More on my husband's response to come...
Am I the only one who likes Star Gazing!? And for the record, I also have diry "MANtasies". They just all occur while star gazing.
Well, I think I'm a dude. Because mine are usually just involve normal everyday activities. That or "mantasies" as Johnny B likes to call them. So, therefore, I'm a dude. And, jaclyn, what color am I on the color wheel seeing as how I am not very familiar with each color and you always bring it up?
Wow..this got out of control pretty quickly. Daring topic darling daughter. You are a fabulous writer.
Some of y'all are dirty! Look at what you subjected my mother to!
Sorry Jackie's mom...I'll try to keep it to myself next time.
I need to apolize for my husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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